These past few weeks have been fascinating. Regardless of the emotions I have been going through on a personal front, what I’m also finding interesting is the effect that all this life coaching is having on my everyday life. This applies, perhaps, more in work situations than social ones but nonetheless I seem to be becoming much more observant of how other people behave and react in different circumstances. I suddenly seem to be “seeing” little ‘insecurity bubbles’ floating above my co-workers as they fight to defend their corner – as they try to bully, dictate or demand. The way they don’t listen because they’re too wrapped up in what they feel has to be the outcome of a particular meeting – often based on their own preconceived notions of their own self importance and position!!
I want to suggest to them there just might be another way. That how they are now could be restricting the opportunities they have to get so much more from their job and the people around them!
How they could be missing so many new ideas by being so closed in their outlook. And that listening and being open to others ideas doesn’t mean they would lose face – on the contrary – they would gain so much more.
We all have baggage. It’s all part of who we are. We can’t get rid of it but we can learn to understand why it’s there, what we packed into it and why, and by understanding it we can choose to deploy it or not!
We can, if we have a mind to, keep the cases locked and do things differently – so opening up new possibilities and different outcomes.
OK – so now all I have to do is – Do It!! And that – of course – is the hard part!!