I’ve always promised myself that here I will be 100% honest. So that includes what I learn how (as best I can) I’ve learnt it, and how things have changed within me as I’ve progressed.
Before I started to write this post I searched my own blog to find what else I’d written on this very important subject!
I came across this post (click) and AJ’s very amusing comment – which for reasons which escape me I didn’t respond to! Sorry AJ. Actually you made me giggle then and again this evening! Thank you.
I’ve also bought a book (at Stephen’s suggestion) called Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath. It arrived this morning. At the back of the book you get a code which you feed in on a website and then carry out an assessment. So today I learnt what my 5 top strengths are. They are Positivity, Communication, Arranger, Achiever and Activator.
They feel true to me.
The book goes on to give you action plans and lots lots more.
The results – which I haven’t read in depth yet have, however, given me a feeling of Yes I am OK being who I feel I want to be.
Anyway back to the subject of my Values and how after ‘floundering around’ on my own, I now, with Stephen’s help, have a list of 10 – in a new order and with new Rules which are good for me and aren’t so severe they can never be met.
This is what I’ve been working on with Stephen over the last few weeks. What I find fascinating is we revisited my original 10 and the Rules I had set them originally. Well those Rules have gone right ‘out-the-window’. It’s amazing how in just 2/3 weeks things have changed. And changed for the better.
So my list today (I’ve just got back from my LC session) is like this:
|1||Growth||Overall||I grow when I learn something challenging. Committed to learning about life|
|Me||I become committed to everything I believe in – My Values|
|Relationship||I will feel growth in the relationship if the person gives and is committed to helping me become the person I want to be|
|2||Love||Me||I just do. To love me first|
|3||Courage||Me||I have to love myself|
|Others||To love me enough – fearlessly|
|4||Intelligence||Me||I have to have courage to believe in myself|
|Others||To say what they think/feel fearlessly|
|5||Trust||Me||Loving me. Think before words|
|Others||I trust me to know. To protect me|
|6||Respect||Me||I have to love and care for me|
|Others||To treat me with respect. When I’m heard|
|7||Strength||Me||To say NO|
|8||Security||Overall/Me||I trust me to make decisions which are in alignment with everything I value|
|Relationship||I will feel secure in a relationship when the person is committed to helping me become the person I want to be|
|9||Adventure||Overall||Danger at some level (calculated risk). Adrenalin. Giving me storytelling|
|10||Significance||Overall||I feel significant when I feel people genuinely care|
|Me||I will feel significant when I meet all of the above values|
I’ve printed them out so I can carry them around with me. There to help me when I feel unsure what to do.
So that’s it really for now. I don’t think I have anything more to say this evening.