I’ve just been reading another blog and the writer asked the same question – which is what got me thinking!
I know my perspective is riddled with what has happened to me and my marriage. The speed of the disintegration of the relationship that I thought was for life – come what may – for better, for worse.
I think some men cheat because, actually, it’s easier to run than face up to issues they have within them. Maybe they run to a solution outside themselves rather than dealing with the ‘within’. In my view that’s what Alex has done.
At the end of the day. He’s done it. Something I still find amazing – especially on those moments of nostalgia – which, of course, are so dangerous, as they remind me of the times when I was so gloriously happy. Those moments I gave myself that wonderful feeling of
“Love is how I feel about me when I’m with You” times (credit to my Life Coach – Stephen)
So do we have to face the fact that a lot of men cheat because they are weak wimps who find it safer to bury a relationship than take the initially tougher route of giving 100% to their partner and thus climbing a difficult hill to find something amazing at the top.
Maybe apathy just sets in and they can’t be bothered!
Maybe lust takes over and all they want is masses of sex -and a relationship is a transient thing that gets dropped when a new ‘sex-toy’ appears on the horizon.
I don’t know the answer. This post is just me musing on the possibilities!