(Please feel free to add to this debate through the comments box! Several people have!)
Stephen has added a comment to my post Real Men don’t cheat. So my question is: Can a weak man learn to become a Real Man? I am finding this very interesting. Given what happened to my marriage! Can men learn to become Real Men? Can they ‘let go’ of all the things that caused them to behave in the terrible, deceitful way, to run, to cheat, to behave in such a low, self-pitying manner and actually work at turning themselves around? Can they ‘stand up and be counted’. Look the world in the eye and really and honestly commit with determination and passion to becoming who they say they want to be.
Or are they too scared of admitting they were wrong. And it’s all easier to live in the comfort of being weak. After all there are women ‘out there’ who think that being in charge and dominant, domineering and controlling is the thing to be in this age of equality. Some relish being so. So weak men can continue to be weak and marginally unhappy, and spend their lives wondering why things aren’t quite right.
I know what I’m talking about as Alex ‘pushed’ me into that role. A role I truly didn’t want or enjoy. A role I don’t want to end up in again.
By the way, just to be clear, I’m not expecting Alex to change! And if he actually did really commit, with the passion and determination I believe he would need, to becoming a real man it is by no means certain that I would even consider a life with him again. I don’t actually think he’s got it in him to do so! And what I want – what I really, really want(!) is a REAL MAN! Because I rather fancy being a REAL WOMAN!!