(Update: I am glad I posted this as it is interesting to get other people’s take on this topic. Stephen has commented one of my reader’s views. It would be great to have some more views! Thanks to those who have contributed so far. Caroline.xx – By the way it would be great if a few more men gave their views!)
OK so in the interests of fairness on this on-line debate – here on my blog. I now need to consider the other side of the equation.
(And by the way this isn’t about changing people, no-one can force someone to change – that has to come from within – that is a given!)
How does a ‘strong’ woman – one who has ended up in the ‘masculine’ role actually stop doing what she’s been doing (whether she liked it or not) without appearing to abdicate.
Because I know I did take over. Alex told me at the end (after he’d left!). I also know, if I’m brutally honest – and I tend to be here – that part of me liked being in charge.
But enough about me. What I want to know is how do we stop doing what we did – without generating either blazing rows or a feeling of being patronising/ condesending (ie I’m backing off so you can be a real man!).
By the way – I wonder if I’m ‘allowed’ to have femininity as a value – because if I allow myself that then actually I then get significance!
Some of you may get a bit lost here, which I can totally understand!
Anyway, men – what do you think. Are we ‘strong women’ far too intimidating? Not feminine enough? Are we failing to be the women we are supposed to be – something we’ve buried deep in our attempt to be equals at work? Is society (whoever or whatever that is) turning us into something that isn’t actually ‘working’ in the general scheme of things which nature intended? And by that I don’t mean women should be submissive!
Have we forgotten to be girlie?! Have women forgotten how to be women!
Please do give me your thoughts.