Thank you to all those who are contributing to my mini-debate (which I hope you will continue to do! – Whichever post takes your fancy!).
I am really enjoying your views to these very important issues and the ensuing discussions.
And, of course, it would be great to discuss a great deal more!
For instance do we sub-consciously attract the type of partner we actually don’t want!
If I think about it I do have a tendency to attract ‘weak’ men. Maybe because I am a good organiser and activator – who knows! And because of my need to feel secure I think I can see the ‘adoration’ as a secure place to be. Wrong! I know I get nervous by someone who is too self-assured – probably because of what happened to me when I was 15 (he was a very self-assured 40 year old). I now think I can be scared that that type of man would hurt me. The self-assured men I went out with in my 20s made me feel a bit insecure.
But then I didn’t feel 100% secure with Alex all the time. And the more I got ‘pushed’ into being “masculine strong” the more uncomfortable and unloved I felt. The more I asked to be loved, the more I got a lip-service response. And I knew it was lip-service. Even if I can only now admit it.
So, dear reader, do you think you attract / attracted a ‘wrong’ partner? And do you think you are in danger of doing the same again? If so do you know why?
BTW – I also believe that ‘Wrong’ partners can become ‘right’ partners – but they have to want to be. To change and become the people they really want to be – deep inside themselves – but that has to come from within them.
Lastly (in case you’re wondering) – these debates have been my idea and mine alone! Clearly they have come about as a result of all the life coaching I’m going through! And one of the outcomes of that is a wish to understand not only how I work, but how other people have worked these things out for themselves. So in case you are wondering Stephen had no idea I was going to do this – but I must say I have enjoyed reading his input to the debates – I hope you have to!
(Admin note: If you have posted on my blog before your comments will now appear immediately. If you are new here you will need to wait until I approve your message so I can feel happy that you genuinely want to take part in this interesting debate!)