I’ve become fascinated and almost obsessed by this!
I have my green plastic Values cards laid out on the table. I have the yellow ones on which I’ve written a version name of me on one side and the applicable values list on the other.
I now have 28 that really matter. Which is 2 more than yesterday and probably more than the other day!
At this rate I’ll reach the 50 I was asked for originally!
I suddenly realised this evening – after talking myself out of yet another stupid sobbing session – that the one Value I was missing was the one that’s my Goal:
This one is clearly VITAL.
So is – wait for it Stephen(!)
Gratitude (or Thankfulness)
Which has finally taken on a calmer resonance – one that now means something to me. Maybe I had to come through the horror first before I could admit to needing this value. In the depths of the horror Gratitude took on a distorted meaning which I couldn’t handle and can now no longer explain.
So – Currently – the Values which matter to me – for each of the versions of me – are:
Growth – Love – Courage – Communication – Intelligence – Trust – Respect – Strength – Security – Adventure – Significance – Making a difference
The Caring Me:
Love – Compassion – Forgiveness – Caring – Giving
The Fun Me:
Outrageous – Spontaneity – Passion – Trust – Freedom – Flexibility – Adventure – Giving
The Feminine Me:
Love – Freedom – Trust – Femininity – Spontaneity – Significance – Safety – Security – Intimacy
The “Every Day” Me:
The Default List + Happiness – Gratitude – Health – Fun – Pleasure
Now I need to be sure I have good Rules applied to each of them. For that I may need help. I’ll see how I get on in the next 4 weeks.