Here some of us, are not necessarily floundering round in our single state, but are in need of companionship, company and someone to do things with. Some of us SSs are launching ourselves onto the Internet Dating scene with varying results (I won’t suggest success as I don’t think any of us have achieved what we are looking for).
What we need is help and guidance!! How to get the best for ourselves from whichever routes we have chosen.
One of my blogging friends feels she doesn’t want another serious relationship as she’s made 2 bad choices in her life already. That’s her choice and I totally respect it. But wouldn’t it be great for her if she discovered in herself what it is that either attracts her to the ‘wrong choices’ or makes the ‘wrong choices’ head for her. So she is then totally free to have all the choices the world can offer!
For me it seems I have an amazing ability to attract weak men! OK I’ve now learned to keep a weather eye out for them. But am I putting strong men off? And if so what am I doing or portraying – or hiding – which is stopping strong men wanting to sweep me off my feet and care for me the way I want to be cared for and protected! Because, yes I’m scared of getting it wrong again.
A lot of us are finding our feet again. We are understandably finding this rather un-nerving and are feeling a bit wary. We are bruised. We don’t want to be hurt again. We need to trust ourselves not to be.
Whether we just want someone to be a companion to go to the theatre with, the occasional dinner out, or whether we are looking for a long-term commitment, the problem is the same. How do we ensure we’ll be safe and attract the right sort of person? Are there things we should be doing and asking ourselves to make sure we make the right choices? And that the right choices make a bee line for us!
So come on gurus out there. Give us some guidance and assistance!!!
(I feel this could be a good subject for a blog post from SH – I just might email him and suggest it!)