My outlook on my day can totally change depending on the words I use either on this blog or just to myself!
Doh! I can almost hear you saying, dear reader, ‘has she only just realised that’!!
But it’s amazing how I do this without realising. On Wednesday Stephen (LC) picked me up for saying on this blog that I was – and I quote – mentally bracing myself for the past 3 weeks or so for the envelope to drop into my post box telling me I am now a divorced woman.
I got my knuckles metaphorically wrapped for saying something so negative which will keep me stuck. (You see this Life Coaching is relentless – in a good way I hasten to add – as there’s no getting away with any type of even slightly negative post without being challenged!!)
And I can see that saying what I did doesn’t actually put me in an empowering, positive, forward looking frame of mind – does it!
I did it again last night in an email to Stephen in reply to him about my goal setting (which I acknowledge hasn’t been that buzzy!) I responded with:
“It’s been enough today to keep reminding myself to stand tall!” What’s spooky is he hasn’t said anything – which is almost worse! I feel like a naughty schoolgirl who hasn’t been paying enough attention in class and is now producing mediocre homework!!
So I’m going to be much more careful in future and really consciously change what I say – either on this blog or to myself – if I find I’m using ‘stuck’ words and use unstuck ones instead.
So I’ve changed my “bracing myself……” statement to:
“When my divorce papers finally land on the mat I’m going to have a party to celebrate the fact that my future is now mine to do with as I wish, with whoever I wish and my solicitor won’t be sending me any more bills!”
I am going to have a lovely weekend this weekend, as the weather is going to be good I believe so I can go out and about with my camera and capture some early autumn colours, make the most of my freedom as I’m working all weekend next weekend and enjoy the company of friends!
I am going to unstick myself this weekend!!
And just out of interest, dear reader, what ‘stuck’ things do you say to yourself and what could you say instead? And if you change what you say to yourself, what do you notice within you when you do?
I’d love to know so please do comment as I’m sure this is all good healing stuff and maybe we can help each other!