Does love have a price tag? I’ve been pondering this issue this morning.
For my older brother it appears to. Yesterday’s email exchange has not been resolved yet. For him Fairness is his top priority right now. He sees the Agreement as now being unfair as it requires me to go on receiving my rental expenses. He considers this unfair as I will have the interest (which is taxable) on the money I have received as adequate to meet this expense. So for him actually it’s all about money.
Life is never totally fair. Each person will see fairness differently. At the moment I see fairness as sticking to the Agreement which we all signed. He sees fairness as breaking it. I wonder where Love comes in his list of values. Right now I don’t think he probably knows. Or if he does he’s not about to admit it.
If I give in and bow out of the Agreement then I will get back his Love. So love for him is conditional.
But then am I being as bad? Am I doing the same for the other side of the coin? If I am then I should agree we tear up the Agreement and accept his interpretation of fairness. And also accept that his love is worth more than the agreement.
This is trading. And trading never works where love is concerned. Love, real love, is unconditional. But then am I also putting a condition on it?
Is it the case that the more we have the more we feel is rightly ours? He has built a life style which I can only dream of. I don’t mind. I’m genuinely pleased for him. He has a pension ‘to die for’, a 7 bedroomed house worth mega-bucks. You would think with all he has that the amount involved would be so insignificant it wouldn’t bother him one way or the other. But it does! He is, apparently, very relaxed at handing over 4 or 5 times the amount in tax!
So actually it could be more about me! Which I actually believe it is!
Given that is the case then accepting his version of fairness isn’t going to make one iota of difference to how he feels about me. So I might as well stick to my guns.
I await events!!