The future of our futures

LFBA has just written a post on the Future of our Past and it got me thinking.

We can’t rekindle the past. We may mourn the loss of what we had and what we were envisaging it would give us going forward but we have our memories – the good and the not-so-good, the amazing shared times and all the others in-between –  and no one can take those away.

Drawing a line and looking forward and never back is difficult, in fact tougher than anything I personally have ever faced in my life to-date.

My internal dialogue can trip me up when I least expect it or want it to and I can find myself running off down yet another dead-end lane of sadness, distress and confusion.

But creating a brighter future with the future I now face is better than sticking to the thoughts of what might have been….. if only…………………

I know I still sabotage myself more frequently than I would wish!  Ideally I wouldn’t do this at all! But I recognise I do.  So much so that I’ve booked another session with Stephen!  I now know, because I’ve learnt, what I need to do.  I even have a strong clue on how to do it.  I just need a coach to watch over me and guide me whilst I do!  To push me on when I may baulk at the process.

And I’m going to do this as I  know, emphatically,  I don’t want to be looking at me ‘n’ years down the road and wishing I hadn’t wasted those precious years of my life in a hopeless circle of the  “what could have beens”.

So next Saturday I’m going to have a fun 2 hours giving myself another nudge forward!  And anyway I also want to discuss coaching techniques with him. The learning process never ends – which is what’s such fun!

3 thoughts on “The future of our futures

  1. Congratulations on your up-coming session. I imagine you are really able to focus on what you need now that you’ve had the “crash course.” I bet it will be a meaningful session.

    I still allow triggers to kick me in the butt sometimes. I have found, though, that I can usually redirect my self-talk and do okay with it. I haven’t mentioned it on my blog, but D and his OW are getting married in May. Fortunately I find that I don’t care as much as I would have thought, but maybe just enough to be glad that I’ll be out of the country on their big date.

    Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

  2. What would happen to your future if you remembered your past differently.

    Would your memories of your future be different today?

    How can you trust your perception of your memories if you don’t know how thoughts are created?

    What if our memory of our past is not as true as we think, what if the perspective we have given our past is just one of hundreds. What if we think the wrong one is fact and that is the basis on which our futures is built.

    Wouldn’t you want to know?

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