One of the biggest problems in getting over what I’ve been through (and what I believe several of my readers are going through) is changing the unconscious behaviour that keeps giving me what my conscious mind thinks it wants! Which, in my case, appears to be a hankering for the past. Life Coaching addressed that in spades. My problem is I still have a tendency, at times, to drift back to behaving as I did before. And by that I mean my internal dialogue creeps up on me and scuppers me!!
I’m in the middle of reading “Frogs into Princes” – by John Grinder and Richard Bandler the NLP gurus, which is proving enlightening! My quest for knowledge is continuous and completely absorbing – which still surprises me as this has NEVER been me before!!!
So I think one of the issues I have is that I haven’t got my new behaviour patterns quite right in all aspects of my life, so my unconscious is still, too frequently, triggering the old one in an attempt to give me what I think I want – and actually that’s no good ‘cos I can’t have it!
We covered some of this in the course and it hit a raw nerve so to speak! Stephen (life coach) went over and over this with me – in masses of different ways! So I’ve been given all the instruction and coaching I could possibly need. It’s just there’s still something hidden away in some recess of my mind that keeps firing the opposite – and I wish it wouldn’t!
At least I now recognise when I’m doing it and I know, with an amazing certainty, that I need to dig-deep and allow my unconscious to come up with some other ideas!.
I realise to some of you this may seem a lot of mumbo jumbo and you could all be reading this thinking “OK! She’s finally lost it – she’s flipped!!” But I understand it!
Perhaps I should discuss with Stephen! After all I am now so much more receptive to being coached and allowing myself to consider and be totally open to new choices.
Alternatively give myself a good dose of self-coaching!
Because I really do want to give myself what I want all the time rather than just most of it!
I want Tigger and Pooh Bear days all the time and no more Eeyore days!! (Which by the way I’m NOT having today!!). I may be feeling a touch jaded having not got to bed until 1.00am – after a very successful and fun dinner party chez moi – but I’m not feeling at all Eeyore’ish today!