We are all 100% responsible for how we react and behave. The problems arise when we don’t realise that and so bring out conditioned responses to situations. Those responses which we convince ourselves are just part of us, the way we are and which we have no control over.
Wrong! Of course we have control over them. We may just not know it!
Yesterday was a manic day for many of my staff as they worked their hearts out to ensure the company ‘open day’ ran smoothly and with no hitches. They were put under severe pressure at times from people who should have known better, as schedules were changed or pieces of equipment failed and those who were in the limelight panicked and took it out on the only people they could – my staff.
A couple of them got edgy, their smiles became a little fixed and I could see were finding the going tough.
I took them ‘out of circulation’ for a couple of minutes and gave them time to air their angsts and then gently encouraged them to find other choices on how they wanted to react by seeing the rudeness of others as their inability to handle the pressure. Soon I had them back with genuine smiles clear in the choices they had made – that they could handle themselves better than the others as they had chosen not to get cross or be rude never mind what level of pressure they were being put through!!
We can all choose to ‘knee-jerk’ react to other people or situations. But we don’t have to. We can choose to trust, we can choose to believe, we can choose when and with whom we want to be seen as vulnerable, we can choose when or not to control, or get angry or irritated. We also choose to love and when and who to love and why. The choices are endless.
One of the great things life coaching brings is learning how to get these endless choices and so have them at our finger tips to use when we choose to use them.
So many people I know have said to me “Don’t do any of that life coaching stuff on me I don’t want to know anything more about me than I do already”
Goodness me why ever not! Because it doesn’t remove choice it just opens up the world to more choice and more choice I believe, gives you the chance to be the best possible person you can be as you’re not being hampered by the lack of it.