chinese water torture…….

I trundled off to camera club last night to meet up with my great friend, with whom I was doing half-time tea/coffee duty!  This is not popular duty with many of the members.  Though not an onerous task it does intrude on the evening!  And has an air of mediocrity as we use cheap plastic cups and plastic holders!  I’m not sure how things could be improved – all I know is they need to be!  It’s a cheap solution – and it looks it!

But I digress. The evening’s entertainment was a presentation from a photographer on birds and animals of Southern Africa.  Now this is a ‘dangerous’ topic for me. Given that Alex and I spent so many holidays in the area.  Seeing the photos of the places and wildlife was wonderful but at the same time like some sort of chinese water torture!  The steady drip-drip of reminders…..   I became mesmerised by the ‘horror’ of my situation as my happy past unfolded in front of me – unable to look away, longing to see more and yet wanting to run!

So I am somewhat pleased with myself that I (a) didn’t bolt!  (b) enjoyed the evening and (c) didn’t even cry when I got home!  In fact I remained reasonably in control of my emotions!

I progress, dear reader, I progress!!

I have an idea!

A touch of photography the other day!  Bugs, creepy crawlies and reptiles!

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I just know who I’d like to send these to!! – And by that I mean the live ones!  Especially the tarantula – Oh Yes –  and the cockroach!

I’m sure he’d just love them!  And he so deserves to have them!!

Don’t you think I’m so generous?

It helps if you read the manual!

I’m a great one for buying instruction manuals.  I have loads!

BUT!  Not so good at reading them!!

My camera came with an instruction manual (all 200 pages of it!)  – but I rarely refer to it!  I bought a book on Photoshop (for Dummies  – I can be wise about what I need!).  I have to say it has a very jolly, colourful cover, which I have admired for months and months!  Have I actually opened it and read its instructional contents?  Of course not.  Far too scary!  And anyway I’m using it to prop up a collection of CDs!

I also have a vast collection of books dealing with marriage and relationships (and I do mean vast!  Just about the entire relationship library)  with titles like – Moving On; Staying Together (good to have both options!);  Beat The Bitch (now that one was hard to resist!!);   Loving Yourself, Loving Another; Finding True Love…….   I could go on!   Have I read any of them.  No!  But I love the feeling of comfort they give as I look at them side-by-side on my book shelf!  I bought most of them during those first few months of shock.  It was as if by buying the book I was doing something about solving the problem!  I just couldn’t be asked to open the covers and read!

So – to be honest – what I need is to be ‘taken by the hand’ and taught!!

Probably that’s what most of us need!  To be taught how to keep relationships together, what we need to understand about the sexes, how each sex functions and how to get the best for ourselves and the one we love.

To be taught how to re-align, clone and recolour our ‘photos’, touch up the errors  made when the trigger was pressed at the wrong moment.  And being instructed in the ‘dark art’ of  how to do it and then made to practice under the watchful eye of a good tutor has much more chance of success than – in my case – faced with just reading the book – never mind how pretty the cover!

But having had the lessons and made to practice maybe it’s then good to have the odd manual to refer to when we need to remind ourselves of a particular technique.