Before I ‘get going’ and fire this latest ‘pearl’ of Caroline’s perceived ‘wisdom’ into the ether I will state that a lot of what appears below has been inspired by talking to Stephen (Life Coach) and his views. So the credit is his. No credit to me. I just hope he doesn’t mind me ‘waxing lyrical’ on the subject!
So here are my views!
Where have all the Men gone? And I don’t mean there aren’t any ‘out there’. It’s just that there are too many Lost Boys.
Men who are failing to be – just that – Men. When it comes to relationships they seem to ‘fall over’ and play dead. They aren’t standing firm and fighting for what they had, what they could have, what is staring them in the face – if they would only open their eyes and really look.
Have the women ( mainly mothers – I think) in their lives failed them and only taught them just to take and not give. Have they never been taught the basics? Have they only learnt to expect the world to provide for them on an emotional level rather than to be responsible for their share of the providing? What has happened in our ‘society’ that we now seem to be producing so many Lost Boys.
They ‘appear’ in all walks of life. In fact even some of the most amazingly successful business men seem to suddenly crumble and fail when it comes to the one of the most important things in their lives – their relationship with their wife. The person they supposedly committed to for life.
Faced with a decline in – say – passion in their marriage they run. And – oh yes – they don’t run until someone new rolls up and offers them a refuge to run to. Then rather than take responsibility for their lack of commitment they fire out all the old cliches.
“My wife doesn’t understand me”,
“I can’t talk to you”,
“The sex was OK but just physical – there was no love”
“You don’t listen”
Yes they blame. They blame; they don’t take responsibility. They take; they don’t give. And having taken and taken and not got what they perceive is their right to have, they go bouncing off to take from someone new. And leave a trail of destruction behind.
Quite a few MEN visit this blog (Counting Ducks, AJ, and others (My LC included – clearly!!) – I hope you don’t mind me ‘naming’ you!) – so guys this is not directed at you! In fact what would be great is if you would please clone yourselves and go out and repopulate the world. Because the world is in great need of you.
Well, at the very least, I know I am (and I don’t think I’m alone)! Because I want a giver and a sharer, not a taker.
I want my man (when I find him) to be a Man!