Wow – I’m Impressed

This young man has recently featured in The Times – one of our National Newspapers.  I don’t know him. I’ve never met him BUT I’m more than impressed.

He’s currently busy not dying from cancer

Puts the issues I went through and blogged about here into perspective. (Perhaps I should rename my Ex Percy PeckTive)

I’m sending John a HighFive for attitude and have donated to his cause.

This is his blog:

JM Underwood


Update – March 2015

I see my blog continues to get a readership so I thought I’d just post a short update.

I’m now working for myself doing what I totally love.  It absorbs me completely and is the best job on the planet as far as I’m concerned!!  I’ve concentrated my efforts and training on helping  and coaching couples with marital problems.

I think going through what I went through has helped me empathise with my clients and given me an insight which helps me do the job I do. Stephen continues to take an interest in my business and generally keeps in touch – which is lovely.

On the social front I’ve done some travelling and I’m doing more this summer and autumn.

Alex married ‘the other woman’ last summer – I always said she’d nail him!!  She was determined to get him – and get a ring on her finger – so she has succeeded!!  Oddly he still keeps in touch with me – once in a while!!

Anyway, life for me is good and all I need now is to find someone who will cherish and protect me and be my partner in my future.  So I’ve taken the plunge again and joined yet another dating site!!

I hope all my blogland friends are thriving.

To those who have just suffered the horror of a break-up, all I can say is you can come through and there is a future which will be fulfilling.

Remember the future is a blank canvas-yours to paint, draw and create…….


My Life Coaching experience with Stephen Hedger

Those of you who used to visit this blog on a regular basis know my story and  what I went through and the help and guidance I received through my life coach – Stephen Hedger.  To those who don’t – well it’s all here!!   A long read but I think some of the pages and posts are helpful!

I stopped blogging on a regular basis last May (2012) as this blog had served its purpose!

However, I’ve noticed recently that a great many people end up here as they’ve used his name as a search term.  To help you find out how he helped me and the input I received from him here on this blog I’ve now created a ‘Stephen Hedger’ category.

I did not tell Stephen about this site for quite a while and then only allowed him to view but not comment!  It was important to me to feel I could say anything here and not feel restricted or constrained about anything.  He was very supportive of what I was doing and would telephone me when he saw me taking a dip.  Soon it became clear that his advice to me would also help so many others so I invited him to comment when he saw fit.  The result has been so useful to so many.  All the way through Stephen respected this space and commented with immense understanding.

The ‘Stephen Hedger’ category gives you a fast insight into the help I received.

To anyone considering seeking help from him, all I can say is I thoroughly recommend you do!

Good luck with whatever problem or issue you have


Seasonal Festivities are almost on us!

I see that despite not posting anything for about 6 months I still have a  follower list!

Well just to let you know I’m still around!   Work keeps me busy and I have been doing some coaching – which I find incredibly fulfilling and I appear to be able to make a difference to those I coach – and a positive difference at that, which is great.

Do I still get low days?   Of course I do – I’m human!

But Goals are the answer.  Even if it’s writing the Christmas cards or sorting out ‘stuff’.  I’ve moved and am now in my own little house – which I own – so having all my belongings back from storage has meant a great deal of sorting out ‘stuff’!

And I did finally do the ‘shopping challenge’ set me by Stephen all that time ago!   (I had to go in to a shop and ask for something they didn’t sell!  – eg  A bunch of flowers in a phone shop). And I didn’t giggle!!

The effect of having achieved this was interesting.  Relief – that I’d finally found the courage to do it –  and a feeling of achievement that I could actually do it without giving myself away.   Also realising that it didn’t matter what the shop owner thought of me – possibly that I was insane – I couldn’t care – I know I’m sane and that’s all that matters!

I’ve had a few dates which have been interesting but not long lasting!

My goals for 2013 are to get more clients to coach and also to improve my social life



My Steps along the Way!

To any new reader who has just fallen on this blog for whatever reason, I hope you find it interesting and helpful.

For me this blog was one of my life-lines.  It gave me an important outlet where I could air my feelings and thoughts as I worked through the different emotional stages to where I am now.  Most of the posts are categorised into these Stages.

Stage 1 The Chilean Mine
Stage 2 Ground Level
Stage 3 Climbing
Stage 4 The Top
Stage 5 Flying

The comments and support were vital.  So to those who are perhaps at those initial stages of shock and horror of a relationship collapse – whether that be of their own choosing or inflicted upon them –  then  I hope the posts and Pages of this blog help you in some way.

The Debates/Discussion posts are worth reading as they are thought provoking and contain good life coaching assistance.

The Pages can be accessed either through the list on the right or the menu bar above.  I hope you find them useful.

Dipping into past posts gives an insight to the route I took.  But in summary here are some of the posts which I feel were important!

I’m in a new and better place

Reflective Moments

Real Men don’t Cheat and the following debate!

Vulnerability is the key to my success

Why I had the thoughts I had!

The moment my Goal started to take shape!  I’m just surprised it took me so long to realise it given earlier posts!!

And finally all those Poetry moments which came bumbling into my mind throughout!

The above only highlight a few of the steps I’ve taken but I defy anyone to wade through the entire blog!  I have done so just recently and found it fascinating – but then it’s been all about Me!!

Here’s to everyone’s happiness and brilliant future.  May you find your route and get to where I am today.  Eighteen months ago a large part of me didn’t believe it was possible! But it is!  I’ve surprised myself and in so doing found an inner peace and contentment which is great. My next goal is to find someone to share my life with!

This blog remains open to comments. And if I can help you in any way then please do get in contact.