A situation at work yesterday triggered me thinking about this as I drove home last night. Driving is my ‘time to think’ time. This can be dangerous and very non-productive if I’m not careful and can send me down a cul-de-sac (not literally you understand – unless I have the Sat Nav turned on and it decides to take a detour!) emotionally!
A member of my staff was working out how to introduce a change in working practice to one of his staff who hates change with a vengeance! We talked about it for a while and I suggested making it as fun as possible and to involve her as much as possible in the changes. No one likes being the recipient of forced change without having an input! He developed his ideas and went away with a scheme of his own devising which I’m sure will work. Good news.
I know many people resist change. And we all have ingenious ways of convincing ourselves we don’t need to change! I can over-exaggerate and generalise and when challenged laugh it off as part of me being me! But having been pulled up on it a few times recently – in the nicest possible way I might add – I’m making an effort to be more explicit in how I express myself. It’s important. Especially when it comes to my goal and how I hope to help people.
We all have things we could do better or be less controlling over if we just accept we aren’t always right and concede that change could give us something more! I also think it’s grabbing the opportunities that present themselves when they’re offered. Be it taking up an offer to improve our written grammar, enjoying the change to an IT system or having fun changing the office environment for the better instead of putting up a physical barricade of resistance (which I had to deal with once!), to the real emotional ones of changing a pattern of behaviour which isn’t giving us the life we truly desire.
Change can be hard, slow and drawn out, or Change can be fun, surprising and swift!
Some changes are harder to embrace than others. For each one of us these will be different. Actually taking the decision to make a change is the hard, slow bit!! Once you’ve decided to the next bit can often be quite fast – and fun!
So now, for me, it’s finding out why my unconscious mind is doing what it is, so I can change the pattern and rid myself of my daily morning angst. I rather wish I’d owned up to this problem when I was still going to Life Coaching as I might have had a better last 4 months than I have. Bother!